Disappointment
If you are a stand for people to participate in a project, yet despite your best efforts, no one is participating, don’t be disappointed at them. They did what they did, and you can’t do anything about it.
Instead, use your energy to look at how you were being in the matter:
How were you being such that your desired outcomes were not met?
How were you being such that everyone wasn’t in partnership with your goals?
How were you being such that people didn’t show up?
Did you really set them up to win?
Did you really empower them to complete the tasks?
If you’re pointing a finger at someone, you’re pointing three back at yourself.
March 20th, 2009 at 10:05 AM
But then again, you can’t take it personally either, as I learnt from an earlier post.
“If they don’t turn up, it’s not you, it’s them.”
Tell me how that is consistent.
Unless that is is actually the defining difference between the leader and… well. other people.
March 20th, 2009 at 4:02 PM
Hey Hok!
With people not showing up to meetings, I said that you should create with what you have. Basically, if one person shows up, work with them; if no one shows up then still create with what you have - you. I’ve had no one show up to a meeting before, and so I just sat there and twiddled my thumbs. I didn’t take it personally. I wasn’t disappointed in the people who replied to my email. Instead, I sat there and I thought of how I could create the meeting differently next time such that people actually showed up! I got that the choice of meeting place was a horrible idea. It was a first meeting, I didn’t know anyone, and I chose to hold the meeting in a noisy common room. Oops!
And so with that in mind, I sent out another email to the group with a different location, and at the next meeting, 5 people showed up, etc.
So it wasn’t personal, I wasn’t disappointed, and I looked at me to see how I could cause the next meeting to be successful.
Cheers,
Marita